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No skateboard, over 40 and face doesn’t fit…

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Dear Office-Politics,

I have been working for a large marketing company for about 9 months in planning. This is made up of about 12 senior planners each responsible on a project to project basis and managing single projects. The department is being broken up into client teams. There will be 5 project teams each headed by 1 senior planner and staffed by one junior or two very juniors.

That leaves 7 left over who are getting the boot right out the door with immediate effect. The company is making out like it is performance related except it couldn’t be further from the truth. The client managers are picking their favorites. The favorites are the least skilled and experienced and tend to let the client managers walk all over them.

I am slightly different as I do support strategy and am a shared resource. So I need to go to the creative team. The creative team don’t want me! My ex-line manager said it is because they are creative into skateboarding and you are over 40 and your face doesn’t fit.

Now my job is on the line with immediate effect. My performance review which was good has been withdrawn! The powers that be are now interviewing everyone I have worked with and asking them to find fault with me with leading questions like “do you think she could still improve”, could she have done better?

Any day now I expect a tap on the shoulder to be told I need to hand in the password to my computer and leave the building. Seriously this is what is happening to everyone else.

What can I do?

Not riding a skateboard

timothy johnson

Dear Up-A-Creek-Without-A-Skateboard

First and foremost, if the creative team manager provided that feedback to you in writing (or in front of witnesses), and if you are in a jurisdiction that punishes age discrimination, then you have a case. What you were told was wrong, unethical, and possibly illegal. (I had to laugh at the ex-line manager’s response to you, not at your expense, but rather at how they would react to me. I’m over 40, teach and consult on creativity, and I’ve just taken up skateboarding. I’d definitely be a square peg in their stereotypical round hole.)

Objective Self-assessment and Analysis

But to your question… what can you do? Outside of the legal aspects, I would recommend some objective self-assessment and analysis. One of the first questions is why you are not among the favorites. Well, for starters, you appear to have a back-bone (being a vertebrate is always a good thing) when it comes to dealing with client managers. It stinks to be the one left out, but that is sometimes how life happens. The reason I bring up self-assessment is that you most likely will be headed to a new job and a new employer soon. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, given how you’ve been treated. You will want to think about how you want to be perceived and viewed (and ultimately valued) in your next position.

Market Yourself Better

Marketing is a fickle sport… especially when it is ourselves that we’re marketing. Overly modest people tend to get short-changed and cheated because they don’t know how to sell themselves effectively to the people who make decisions.

In your case (whether accurately or perceivably), you weren’t viewed as a project manager with whom client managers wanted to work, and you weren’t perceived as creative and innovative enough for the Creative Team. It’s up to you to fix that. If you want to be perceived as a project manager, act like a project manager (including working with stakeholders and communicating and building relationships). If you want to be viewed as a creative resource, act like a creative resource. Bring fresh ideas to the table. Be a little random. Have a midlife crisis (within respectable boundaries, if you have a spouse). In short, we often abdicate others’ perceptions of us to them, instead of attempting to own and manage those perceptions. It can be challenging, but it is a skill that every professional needs to master.

Build a Fan Base

How you communicate your accomplishments in these arenas will also affect how people perceive you. If you spend all of your time bragging about them, it can backfire. If you can go in and, through your accomplishments, build a fan base who will do your bragging for you, all the better.

Good luck and thank you for writing to Office Politics.

Timothy Johnson, Author

Timothy Johnson is the author of the newly released Gust: The “Tale” Wind of Office Politics (Lexicon, 2007) as well as Race Through The Forest – A Project Management Fable (Tiberius, 2006). As Chief Accomplishment Officer for his company, Carpe Factum, Inc. (Latin for “Seize The Accomplishment”), he also is a dynamic speaker, providing keynotes and workshops on the accomplishment-oriented topics of project management, creativity, process improvement, systems thinking, and (of course) office politics. His consulting clients have crossed multiple industries and have included Wells Fargo, Harley-Davidson, ING, Teva NeuroScience, and Principal Financial Group. In addition to writing, consulting, speaking, and coaching, he is also an adjunct instructor for Drake University’s MBA program in Des Moines Iowa, teaching classes in Project Management, Creativity for Business, and Managing Office Politics.

  1. 4 Answers to “No skateboard, over 40 and face doesn’t fit…”

  2. In Portland, Oregon we have a sizeable community of older skaters – that’s me in the office chair. I’m one of the oldest at 46. A lot of us are professionals with families. Some of us are even creatives. I sympathize with anyone who is treated unfairly, I just found it ironic that our once embattled ethnic group (skateboarders) is now in a position to discriminate.

    By MC on Sep 4, 2007

  3. I am a skateboarder and artist and i am 50 and in most case’s i can out skate the young kids, most of them welcome you when they see you as skaters is like there own family, i also custom built and graffiti paint boards for people. in winter take your trucks and wheels off your skateboard and use it like a snow board it is really fun! i welcome photos, letters, pen-pals from the over 40 skaters across america. write george dean at 80 broadway #33 hammonton, nj. 08037. or e mail me at dgr499@yahoo.com

    By george dean on Aug 23, 2008

  4. I find it funny, too. “Being young” is a pretty sad requirement, not to say pretty stupid. Associating it with skateboarding is even more sad and stupid. We have a community of old skateboarders where the norm is to be over 40, some are over 50, a few over 60. I feel like I’m a living oxymoron, now!

    By Old Kook Skating on Apr 10, 2010

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