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Professional counsellors recommend I ignore these people as they are only ankle-biters and are insecure in themselves. The problem is that they are drawing others into the posse as well...
I am two years into a job at a major company that is purely heaven.
Lately though I have been the subject of backstabbing and childhood games. No one confronts me directly even though I am supposed to only deal with the issue that way, as directed by my director. When I addressed the issues with my director she listened and then suggested I go first talk with the managers (title by degree and not by merit). This was already done and I was advised many months ago that I should not confront the same people (by her).
My dilemma is that "professional counsellors " recommend I ignore these people as they are only ankle-biters and are insecure in themselves. The problem is that they are drawing others into the posse as well. I really do not mind, but I feel as though the director now does not give me the same opportunities as before.
I'm an ethical person and have strong morals. My reviews have been exceptional and I have received corporate and personal accolades already.
I have refused on two occasions to go along with the managers when these two traits are to be compromised.
I want to learn how to better deal with the corporate players. Should
I just ignore, politely personally confront again, or...?
Dear Nurse T,
CONFRONT OR CONVERSE?
ETHICS AND MORALS OR RIGIDITY?
We hope these tips help with either a band-aid, or a door opener to longer term "treatment" of the political sickness from which your organization might suffer. If not the "cure," we hope we've given medicine to reduce the symptoms! Thanks for writing to Office-Politics.com
Rick Brandon, Ph.D. and Marty Seldman, Ph.D., Co-authors
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