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I am already at the edge of my career with my current company. My Boss thinks I want to outshine her. When she gave me an unjustified warning letter, I replied it with a complaint letter about her all the way to the top. Now she does not trust me anymore, she does not give me anything to do. I bet if she can she wants to fire me. Now I am just going to the office, with only a few things to do, not like before. I'm always on the sideline, but still earning my salary. Nowadays it's not easy to find a job outside. Please advise what should I do? Can I still recover my relationship with the Boss? If yes, how do I do it? She is single, and 40 years old. I am married and 33 years old.
Married and 33
Dear Married and 33,
It sounds like your relationship with your current boss is pretty well stalemated. The two options that I see are to break the stalemate by trying to restore a good working relationship with her, or to try to get a transfer to another area in the company. A third option, which you indicate you'd rather not look at, is to find a new job.
As a general principle I think it is best to try to restore the relationship with your boss. Even if you get a transfer, it's never good to have someone in the firm who thinks poorly of you.
Restoring the relationship requires approaching your boss and acknowledging that things are not good between the two of you and asking for a meeting so that you can try to improve your relationship and patch over the bad experience around the warning letter.
If you feel it would be unwise to approach your boss on your own you might ask for help from the Human Resources department. Part of their role is to help restore fractured working relationships.
If your firm does not have a Human Resources department that can help in that way, you might ask a trusted colleague, someone who both you and your boss respect, to help out in getting the conversation started.
Bottom line - you need to mend fences with your boss if you want to have a successful career with this firm. And whether the poor relationship is your fault or hers, it's in your own interest to take the initiative.
I wish you well with it.
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