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Two members seem to be having a "romantic" relationship. They spend time all day together working on the same work issues...
I was hired to be a Lead Analyst on a project 2 years
ago. The position entails leading analysis efforts, education peers and
supporting senior management with decision making that will promote the
delivery of a software product.
My lead position is one in which I am there to lend support for critical matters and they refused to utilize me or communicate what is going on in any way. I have confronted them about the issue and now the tension among us is very uncomfortable. The other team members feel that the "duo" is creating a us vs. them environment. Another issue with this is our management team will not address it because the work is still getting done.
I am ready to resign but really don't want to because I have 4 years invested in the company and do enjoy what I do. Any advice on how to deal with this? Thanks.
Dear Third Wheel,
We truly wish we could be there with you to get a sense of what's really going on since, obviously, it's impossible to know from the outside and there are so many possible interpretations. Two key questions to ask yourself honestly, the two we need to better understand in order to really offer concrete suggestions are: • IS THERE SABOTAGE, COLLUSION, OR OVERLY POLITICAL BEHAVIOR GOING ON? • WHAT IS YOUR REAL BATTLE, AND IS IT WORTH FIGHTING?
SABOTAGE OR DECEPTION?
WHAT BATTLE ARE YOU FIGHTING?
1) MAKE IT A THREESOME!
2) DO YOUR OWN THING
3) PLAY HARDBALL
We also recognize you can always check out your options in other companies, but so far there are more avenues to pursue before that last resort. We wish you well, and may you navigate with savvy and a moral compass! Then you won't lose sleep at night.
Thanks for writing to Office-Politics.
Rick Brandon, Ph.D. and Marty Seldman, Ph.D., Co-authors
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