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"I have a colleague who is calling me a 'backstabber'."
I have a colleague who, from time to time, will accuse
me of something... usually vague. What unnerves me is that I don't know
if he says such things to other people. I really suspect that he does.
For example, just now he's calling me a "backstabber." I swear
I have not intentionally done any backstabbing, and I have no idea what
he might be talking about. I don't really want to complain uneccessarily,
because my feeling is that the accuser in such situations is always
looked upon with suspicion. And this guy gets a lot of sympathy, because
he has a family, and I think it's pretty common knowledge that he has
significant financial difficulties. I don't know if he\'s just paranoid,
or if it's political warfare. What should I do?
Dear Feeling Slandered,
Focus your attention elsewhere where it can help you to get noticed for good actions. Focus on the positive. Think of his insults/comments rolling off your back -- like water off a duck.
There will always be people like him that you encounter in life. A metaphor that comes to mind -- He is in the shadows. You are in the sunlight. Don't let him drag you down. You have more important things to be concerned about.
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