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A new employee joined our team... The problem is, she's quite chatty! In fact, she could probably fill up 2 solid hours without taking a breath.
A new employee recently joined our team. I get along well
with her and the odd time we'll socialize outside of the office. The
problem is, she's quite chatty! In fact, she could probably fill up two
solid hours without taking a breath...
Dear No Chatty-Cathy,
You are accountable for whether you are curt or rude, not for whether someone else thinks you are.
Every new employee needs to spend more time listening than talking – to learn not only the explicit demands a position, but the implicit corporate culture: “how we do things around here.” With your work ethic, you can be a good role model to your new associate. Demonstrate how to focus on what’s appropriate in each moment – on work: when it’s time for work, on friendship: when it’s break time. Be consistent and patient, like water on stone; have confidence in the new person’s ability to get the idea.
And if she doesn’t, stay true to your employer – and to your values. Thanks for writing to Office-Politics.
Betsy Raskin Gullickson
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