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I'm frustrated that I was overlooked, particularly since everyone else has since been promoted and I'm still in the same role I was in when I started...
I've been working for a company for almost 4 years, helping
to build it from a start-up, going public, then ultimately being acquired
by a larger corporation.
one hand, I'm very frustrated that I was completely overlooked, particularly
since everyone else who came into the company at the same time has
since been promoted and I'm still in the same role I was in when i started.
On the other hand, I know I probably don't have the skills necessary
to take on the more senior position, which tells me that I'm not getting
the kind of experience here that I need in order to move upward in
my career. On top of this, the new manager is already pushing his weight
around and dictating to me how I should run my meetings and do my job,
when he has significantly less experience here than I do.
Being overlooked for a promotion and then having to work for someone new to the organization who got the job is a very difficult situation. Your new boss is trying to prove to someone (probably his new boss) that the organization made the right choice in hiring him. He may even try to make this point by trying to show that you wouldn't have done the right things if you had been given the job. It's not surprising that he is trying to make his mark by changing the way that you conduct meetings or do your job.
You seem to have good insight into what skills you presently have as well as what skills you need to develop for future advancement. Have you discussed with your new boss how you could gain this needed experience? Or is there anyone else in the organization that you could approach about developing these skills? Perhaps you could discuss this with someone who has been supportive of you from the beginning of your employment with the company. Understanding if the organization is interested in helping your develop your managerial skills or not will help you better understand what you should do concerning your future.
You do have an important decision to make- to stay or to leave the organization. If you leave, you may be throwing away four years of experience in your field as well as a lot of hard work. On the other hand, if you stay you will have to continue to work for your new boss who seems at least for the moment to have something to prove. I can't make this decision for you but will offer this advice. Whatever your decision, make it in a constructive not destructive manner. In other words, don't allow your current situation to get to the point where you get yourself in trouble with your new boss that would be counterproductive to your career goals. If you find yourself getting to that point, it would be better to leave on your own. On the other hand, you shouldn't leave a job without another one to go to. Begin by finding out how good are your outside options for a job that are equal or better than you have with your current employer. Dust off your resume and begin sending it out to prospective employers. Once you get a better idea how marketable you are to other organizations you can then make a better decision about your future. Don't act just out of emotion but based on what is best for you and your career. Keep thinking objectively about what is best for you and your future career not how angry you might feel about having to work for your new boss.
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