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This is a female who is well known for being a disease... using favoritism, rudeness, even sexual harassment...
I manage a satellite clinic of a county entity with approx 11 doctors
and 50+ employees. I have 3 separate clinics.
many additional benefits, although not County benefits as we are
not county employees, that I do not wish to lose by leaving, but think
there may be no choice.
However, we are not county employees and the only person who can fire and hire is the medical director. Can he be pursued? I think once a bug has been planted, you just need to water. I feel the managers are all working in a hostile environment and know that 4 are actively looking for another job. Is this our only choice? I don't know if anyone is willing to work together to see if there are better options or if we can make a change . Per my Medical Director, the Amb. Care admin is telling everyone we are just a group of managers that are refusing to do what she needs and fighting her every step of the way. This person is like a disease that spreads. Any suggestions?
If you have further questions, please email. I need all the help I can get. Thank you
Dear Bullied and Belittled,
It is clear to me that you are very troubled by this situation and want a resolution soon. You asked for suggestions to move forward. The best suggestion for right now is to take a step back and re-assess the entire situation.
There's an old saying about not being able to see the forest for the trees. Take a moment to think about your overall job situation before deciding to quit. Excluding this manager, do you like your work, your colleagues, and your career? If so, you may decide that you can find ways to cope with her behavior because you value the other things more.
Developing your sense of curiosity and compassion for this manager is one way of coping and feeling less agitated by her petty behaviors. What might cause a person to act the way she does? While I don't know about your situation, my experience has been that people who act petty feel threatened by others or suffer from low self-esteem. Or, perhaps this manager lacks the skills to get the cooperation she needs and believes she must resort to favoritism to garner support.
You can keep things in perspective by remembering that while it is unpleasant for you to deal with her occasionally, she has to live with herself and deal with the consequences of her behaviors all the time.
I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes:
We cannot control life's difficult moments but we can choose to make life less difficult. We cannot control the negative atmosphere of the world, but we can control the atmosphere of our minds. Too often we try to choose and control things we cannot. Too seldom we choose to control what we can-our attitude. - John Maxwell
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be what you decide to make of it.
Dina Beach Lynch, JD
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