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I was romantically linked to a female colleague... In the end, she accused me of having been pursuing her, in such a way as to cause her distress..
I was briefly romantically linked to a female colleague,
who then proceeded to mess me around over the course of the following
year. In the end, she accused me of having been pursuing her, in such
a way as to cause her distress. There was no truth in this, but a month
or two later I found that I had lost my job. I do not know if my colleague
was responsible. I was on a casual contract, and therefore was in a vulnerable
position - easy to dismiss. She was on a permanent contract, in a more
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