{"id":68,"date":"2007-02-27T19:19:04","date_gmt":"2007-02-27T23:19:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/officepolitics.com\/advice\/?p=68"},"modified":"2007-09-10T13:44:48","modified_gmt":"2007-09-10T17:44:48","slug":"my-boss-has-employed-her-nephews-girlfriend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.officepolitics.com\/advice\/my-boss-has-employed-her-nephews-girlfriend\/","title":{"rendered":"My boss has employed her nephew’s girlfriend…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear Office-Politics,<\/p>\n

My boss has employed her nephew’s girlfriend.<\/p>\n

I told my boss that i was unhappy about her telling me to come off my lunch and answer phones and things have gone downhill since. When i told my boss she did agree that nobody should be telling each other what to while she is away but i have three colleagues with whom there is no communication out of an office of 11 staff. <\/p>\n

I was recently told off for telling a colleague that i was going to lunch because he left for lunch shortly after and nobody knew where i was. I felt pushed into a corner and had to explain that it’s been a long time since anybody has told me that they are going to lunch so i would rather tell a colleague who i feel comfortable to talk to. <\/p>\n

One colleague has attempted to be physical but i managed to move, i have been told that they will be calling the boss to tell her what trouble i have caused (i was accused of pushing my ideas forward w\/out consulting the team although the boss’ boss did apologise for causing the confusion). My ideas have previously been taken on with no problems. <\/p>\n

My biggest fear that i will not be able to progress (get a promotion), i do not want to leave just yet. I was transferred from my last office by a bullying boss who is well known and not very popular. I do not want to run from this situation and concerntrating on my work does not seem to be working either. <\/p>\n

Advice please <\/p>\n

Regards <\/p>\n

Pushed Around<\/p>\n

OFFICE-POLITICS REPLY BY PETER GARBER<\/strong>
\n\"peter<\/p>\n

Dear Pushed Around,<\/p>\n

It sounds like you have a lot to deal with at your present place of work. It also sounds like you are not very happy where you are right now. <\/p>\n

There appear to many interpersonal issues going on amongst your coworkers which are probably made worse by hiring friends of the boss’s relatives. I think you have more pressing and immediate issues other than being promoted that you need to address right now. <\/p>\n

I am concerned about your mention of a colleague attempting to get physical with you. This should never happen in the workplace. Is there someone in the organization you can seek help such as a Human Resources person or even the boss’s boss who seems to be a reasonable person? It is not a matter of running from the situation but rather making sure you are someplace in which you feel comfortable and secure. You shouldn’t stay in a work environment in which can’t provide these basic needs for you. You deserve to work in such a place. I understand that you don’t want to leave just yet. But stay only if you can get help from someone in the organization and you can feel comfortable at work.<\/p>\n

Thanks for writing to Office-Politics.<\/p>\n

Regards,<\/p>\n

Peter Garber, Author
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\nPeter R. Garber has worked as an HR professional for over 25 years and is the author of many business books including: Winning the Rat Race at Work and 100 Ways to Get on the Wrong Side of your Boss.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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