OFFICE-POLITICS GUEST ADVISER DIANA<\/strong> Dear Working-the-Bugs-Out, Since I’m not a lawyer — and since you shouldn’t be taking legal advice from a manga<\/a> character — think about that second option.<\/p>\n What’s going on in your workplace is ridiculous, uncalled for, and demeaning. And those are the good things. Take those meetings. Please. The idea that you’re always the butt of the jokes is appalling. Don’t stand for it. But don’t be a fool either. Complaining to five other men will be about as effective as Johnny Bunko trying to organize a military invasion.<\/p>\n Instead, talk to your direct boss about it during your one-on-one meetings. Don’t whine about it. Phrase it, “I was wondering why our conversations are so normal one-on-one, but when you’re in a group, you and everyone else make me the butt of your jokes.”<\/em> Make it seem less like you’re complaining and more like you’re trying to understand the ways of this weird species. If you haven’t noticed already, men love talking about themselves.<\/p>\n Of course, this might not work. Since that same boss won’t let Brian help you, he’s clearly at least part weasel. Which means that ultimately, you’re better off working somewhere besides that locker room full of rodents. Believe me: If you leave, you’ll be better off. And your “team” will be worse off. To paraphrase a old feminist saying, you need that dysfunctional cadre of losers as much as a fish needs a bicycle.<\/p>\n Angrily,<\/p>\n Diana,<\/p>\n Kick-ass counselor OFFICE-POLITICS REPLY BY FRANKE JAMES<\/strong> Dear Working-the-Bugs-Out,<\/p>\n Diana provided two options for you. But I’d like to suggest two more options which are actually based on her advice to Johnny Bunko.<\/p>\n In the Bunko book, Diana outlined six lessons to find career success: 1. There is no plan, 2. Think strengths, not weaknesses, 3. Persistence trumps talent, 4. It’s not about you, 5. Make excellent mistakes, 6. Leave an imprint.<\/em><\/p>\n In your case, I think #2 Think strengths, not weaknesses<\/em> and #6 Leave an imprint<\/em> apply.<\/p>\n OPTION 1: Think strengths, not weaknesses<\/strong> But then you raise your head and hear a coworker making a joke about you. (Sigh) Even though you’ve found the right work for your strengths, you have not found the right place for you. So what can you do?<\/p>\n Stand out and be remembered<\/strong><\/p>\n Being a female programmer presents challenges as the field is dominated by men — but it can be a strength if you play it right. Since women in IT are in the minority, you can stand out and be remembered. You are different. Use that to your advantage. You are fighting old-fashioned preconceptions of what women can do. You know that your ability to program has nothing to do with your gender — but there are obviously guys in your office who think otherwise.<\/p>\n Nobody in your current office expects you to be the star<\/em> programmer. Low expectations are good — work hard, network in the IT community and surprise the hell out of those guys. They may be jealous of the plums you turn up. To find those plums bond with other women and look for ways you can leave an imprint (option 2):<\/p>\n Bond with other women in IT<\/strong><\/p>\n Grow your network of female friends in the IT field using social media tools like Facebook<\/a>, Plaxo<\/a>, LinkedIn<\/a>. These friends can help you identify new opportunities, and learn ways that you can combat the misogynist bozos (though truth be told I’ve met lots of nice nerds)<\/em>. Do a search on Google and you’ll probably find a local Women in IT<\/em> group you can join. <\/p>\n OPTION 2: Leave an imprint<\/strong><\/p>\n In Johnny Bunko ‘leave an imprint’ means finding a way to make a difference in your job, in your community, in the world. Maybe your current job doesn’t leave you a lot of opportunity to shine? We don’t know. But in your free time you could consider these to-do’s:<\/p>\n Your To-Do List<\/strong><\/p>\n 1. Donate your time and talent to Open Source programming. This is a powerful way to get known. You’ll quickly find yourself networking with people who just happen to have day jobs at companies like Google, Amazon, Apple, Microsoft etc. right through to small brainy software shops. Increase your POWER and VOICE in the IT community<\/strong> Computer code is not male or female by nature. But it is always buggy. Write a new program for yourself — go for the next version! You are the master programmer. Thanks for writing to Office-Politics.<\/p>\n Best,<\/p>\n Franke<\/p>\n Franke James, MFA \n<\/p>\n \nThe Adventures of Johnny Bunko<\/a>
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Diana<\/strong>, the unlikely career advisor starring in <\/em>The Adventures of Johnny Bunko <\/strong>has been put into service for the benefit of Office-Politics readers. Diana’s kick-ass advice is featured in the letter below. Read the Office-Politics interview with Bunko author Dan Pink<\/strong>.<\/a>
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\nSeems like you have two options.<\/strong> #1. You can file a lawsuit for sexual harassment — since your workplace might qualify as a “hostile environment.” #2. Or you can get out.<\/p>\n
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\nOne of your strengths is that you are passionate about computer programming. You didn’t choose IT because it was the easy way, but because it was the best use of your talents. I’d say you are to be commended for bravely charting your own path. You are following your inner compass — which both Diana and I would say is super smart. When you are coding you are probably wrapped in up in total concentration and in love with what you do. That is a tremendous strength and great foundation for a long and happy career.<\/p>\n
\n2. Look for opportunities to raise your profile in IT (e.g. submit papers to conventions, speak at conferences, volunteer to contribute to a website newsletter.)
\n3. Get involved with non-profit organizations. There are many that need IT help — and they don’t care what gender you are. Environmental orgs, charities, etc. would love to get free programming help.
\n4. Blog: Start a blog that talks about your struggles to get accepted in the software industry and how you are overcoming them. Invite other people to join in the conversation and you could have a whole new career. (Marketing tip: If you do start a blog, make a blogging card for yourself — it’s the same idea as a business card. It makes it easy to share your contact info at networking events.) <\/p>\n
\nThese strategies could, and should, open doors for you that you can’t imagine right now. Raise your head and look up. You are currently mired in a sexist environment but I think with a little effort on your part you can improve things. Let’s assume you can’t switch jobs. Fine.<\/em> Use the strategies to increase your POWER and VOICE in the IT community. Bonding with other women can help you to understand you are not the only one fighting this battle. And it may give you the courage you need to stand up to these guys and tell them to ‘bug off’. <\/p>\n
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