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"A male co-worker and I were pretty fond of one another...."
My problem is that I fear I will be fired from my job pretty soon.
Reason is...a male co-worker (Jesse) and I were pretty fond of one another. He had a bad day, and to make him feel better, I left him a note on his desk (one of the dumbest things I could do!!). He actually is not the problem, but the cause of it.
I admit it was very stupid and foolish of me to have written this letter. I honestly wrote that another male co-worker (Jack) was leering at me. Jack is Jesse's supervisor. Other things were written in the letter as well. Jesse, for some reason, allowed another male co-worker, a toxic one, (Zach) to read the letter. Zach then told our manager about this letter and she confronted Jack, the one who was leering at me. I have no authority over any of these people. In that letter, I also listed reasons why I couldn't stand the toxic co-worker, who is my manager's favorite due to office politics.
Also, my manager has yet to confront me about the letter,
which I don't know why. I also overheard my manager ask Jack: "What
do you think of the things he/she said?" I couldn't tell if she
said he or she. He replied: "All lies." They also keep having
these impromptu, brief, closed-door meetings. I know for a fact that
our department has "borrowed" another person with the same
job title/position as me from one of our
Scared and Confused
Dear Scared and Confused,
One of the tougher problems to confront in life is dealing with our
own mistakes. Your letter sounds like a classic instance of gossipy
Office Politics. One of the best reasons to avoid gossip is because,
Good for you, however, for recognizing your mistake. The challenge is, how to correct the situation.
I know of no other way than to apologize to everyone involved. Other
people are not blameless, but that does not diminish your responsibility.
Seek out each person, including your manager, and ask for a private
time to discuss this matter. Tell them you recognize that you acted
inappropriately and thoughtlessly and that you would like to make amends.
Tell them that you have learned from this experience. Ask them,
I'm afraid that there is no easy way out of this, but a sincere apology can work wonders in building a new and better relationship with those you have offended or upset.
I hope it works out for you.
Dr. John Burton
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