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I have been recently advised by my manager that the problem with me is that I don't 'play the game'...
Upon asking about the opportunity for me to move up, I
have been recently advised by my manager that the problem with me is
that I don't play the game. The problem is that "you are an intelligent,
attractive female." "People are intimidated by you." Frustrated
by this, I have asked several times to please coach me on what it is
you would like to see different, to get the response that there is really
nothing specific and that if it was a big deal I would have been pulled
into the office about it. This double talk is maddening.
We are sorry about your experiences but hopefully by writing to us you
may be able to help others reflect on their behavior.
Rick Brandon, Ph.D. and Marty Seldman, Ph.D., Co-authors
As a practical way of building on the excellent advice from Rick Brandon and Marty Seldman, I'd like to suggest that you seek out a mentor to help guide you through the corporate maze! Susan Butler Bulkeley offers virtual mentorship and talks about how to find the right mentor in her new book "Become the CEO of You Inc." Susan is a very smart and generous lady with a long successful career working for consulting firm Accenture.
Feedback from Not-Playing-the-Game:
Thank you for this great information. After reading through
my first thought was "YES!! I am not crazy to think this is alot
of hooey." In fact the turnover in our department is tremendous
and soon I too will be voting with my feet. In my region there are
many competitors who offer better pay and the possibility of better
environments. The company is headed up by a major player in the finance
industry, it would be hard to believe someone with his caliber could
turn a blind eye... but you never know, he might not be able to see
it. Thank you all again.
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