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recently, she embarrassed me in front of a meeting of 20-30 people.
Because of this, I have thought of leaving many times...
for a Jealous Boss
for a Jealous Boss,
The first thing I suggest is to make a private appointment with your boss and ask her for help in building a better working relationship. You might start by talking about your aspirations and make it clear to her that you are quite happy doing what you are doing and are not interested in moving into a more senior position, such as hers.
I would suggest that you then tell her what your perceptions are about her behaviour, but be prepared to hear her perceptions as well. Ask if there is a way that the two of you can avoid such an embarrassing situation as you mention, yet still give her the scope to provide you with direction and feedback when she feels it is genuinely needed.
It is unfortunate, but often employees have to help their supervisors to be good managers, otherwise the employee suffers the consequences.
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Dr. John Burton
Dr. John Burton LL.B. M.B.A. M.Div. Ph.D. is an ethicist, mediator, lawyer and theologian whose passion is helping people and organizations create better relationships and stronger communities by being clear, committed and collaborative in their approach to ethics and conflict. John is currently located in Prince Rupert, B.C., Canada, working with Canada's aboriginal communities.
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