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This man 'x' is a little ego-centric male chauvinist, and always tries to tell me that he knows everything about the technology behind the project...
I am an IT consultant working with a client for past 6
weeks on a project
of 5 months duration. I work with a middle-aged man from Peru and I am a 35
year old women.
Please help me with the right strategy. Thanks,
It sounds like you need help knowing how to deal with a classic overly political person, whom we define as someone who is overly invested in image and perception, gets defensive about any hint of feedback making him look bad when you only mean to help and improve, has a hyper-sensitive ego, is more focused on successful position than substantive power or expertise, and is willing to do whatever it takes to advance and look good, including trashing you or fixing blame to take the pressure and spotlight off of his own deficits (weapons of mass dis-TRACTION)...
Don't be confused. Be focused and professional and refuse to let him throw you off balance. His overly political qualities may coincidentally be coupled with a male chauvinist and ageist bias against you, but we suspect those are not as big a factor as his own "hyper-active ego gland" which you need to fly under in order to get through and excel. In other words, if you were an older male IT consultant, we predict he would act the same way. Here are some suggestions:
1) ADJUST YOUR SELF-TALK
2) APPEAL TO HIS EGO AND IMAGE CONSCIOUSNESS
3) WRITTEN TEACHING
• It bypasses his verbal interruptions.
4) BECOME HIS AMBASSADOR
5) HEART TO HEART AND/OR TALK TO YOUR BOSS TO COVER YOUR BASES
Hope these ideas help! He sounds most unpleasant. But it isn't Iraq and he's not Bin laden!
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